WHILE YOU CAN

There is this particular saying that you don’t know the value of what you have until you lose it. So I was wondering, is it that we don’t know the value or we do but simply take it for granted or is it both?

Anyone with gold might know its worth and yet decides to play with it belongs to the second category, such person took it for granted.

Now let’s take a deeper look at it. How do you know the value of something when it has already been lost? Definitely someone must have told you its worth when you had it or after you lost it or you simply felt its impact because you no longer have it. So if someone has already told its worth when you had it can we say you didn’t know the value? Hell no, that means you belongs to the second category. You knew it ’cause someone told you yet took it for granted or was it taken from you? It makes no difference even if it was.

Now, to the first category. Those that lost something due to ignorance of it. It make little or no difference, the point is you lost it. One thing I realised is that, whether it is valuable or not, nothing is worth losing at all (except if you’re sure it’s completely useless and the loss of it would have no effect on you) because something useless today might turn out to be essential tomorrow.

Which brings me to this question: Are all this applicable only to “thing”?

No. As it is to thing so also it is to “human”. As it is applicable to something, so also it is applicable to someone. Then can we say “You don’t know the value of someone until you lose them”?

Why take people for granted? Why don’t you value that relationship? Because they are family you think they’ll always be there? Why not value that friendship? Why not respect that person? Because they are always available for you? Why treating your partner badly? Why are you mean to her? Why are you maltreating him? Simply because they are always with you?

No relationship is meant to last forever, what if you think they’ll never leave and they do? Okay, because they promise you to always be there you think it’ll always be so, what if they do stick with/to their promises but nature occurs?

To those that are always right in a relationship, that saying sorry and admitting wrong is a taboo for, it is high time for you to let go of your ego and start saying sorry whenever you’re guilty so it won’t cost you your relationship, because it might be too late by the time you might have realised you are wrong and saying sorry. And those that your partner always has to tolerate more than necessary for you ’cause you feel you’re doing him/her a favour by being in a relationship with him/her… here’s an opportunity for you to make things right before he/she realise that he/she is too good for you, it might be too late before you realise what you’ve lost.

You know, it’s been said that we just don’t recognise the significant moments of our lives while they are happening. We grow complacent with ideas or things or people, and we take them for granted. And it’s usually not until that thing is about to be taken away from you that you realize how wrong you’ve been, that you realise how much you really need it, how much you love it… You ever heard the expression, “the best things in life are free”? Well, that expression’s true- Nathan Royal Scott (One Tree Hill 3x20).

This life is fleeting and tomorrow is not guaranteed. Life is too short to play with people’s feelings. Value each and every relationship, value that friendship, cherish your partner, treat other people well, appreciate them while you can, tell them you love them while they are still here. Why having a life of regret for things you could have said when she was living? Why hating yourself because of stuffs you could have done together when he was alive? Why crying your eyes out because he left after you’ve mistreated him? Why getting sad because she’s finally with someone who will not maltreat her like you did? You can avoid all these by living well with others. You can actually escape the pangs of regret by making the right choices of dealing with people.  Stop messing with friends and relatives alike, it’s not fun.

A quick lesson from the relationship between a cow/cattle and egrets. Egrets are so small inquisitive minds wonder why they are always around cattles/cows but the cattle's understand the importance of egrets in helping to eat up ticks and flies that might harm them. So no matter how small that person is, he/she can also be of use/help for you later.

Keith Alan Scott in One Tree Hill 4x10 said “It’s an easy thing, saying “I love you” to people who matter. You never know when you might lose them or when they might lose you”.

It’s not too late to start appreciating what you have now, by doing this you can live a regret-free life and you will be well loved. Katharine Hathaway said “there is nothing better than the encouragement of a good friend”.

Now is the time to set things aright… How about you pick up your phone call/text that person, acknowledge their worth and apologize for your wrongs…REMEMBER IT’S BETTER "WHILE YOU STILL CAN".